How do you ground yourself during stressful times, how to de-stress, and how to take care of yourself?
Life can be stressful and demanding a lot of times and it’s so easy to lose sight of what’s important. Here are my 5 full proof ways of relax, rewind, and reconnect when the going gets rough.
Even though the past few days have been really frustrating and stressful, it reminded me of how being “busy” is not a good excuse for me not to take care of myself. And that the trade-off of being constantly stressed and overthinking is just not worth it. So this blog is a reminder to myself and hopefully to you to make more time for me-dates.
This weekend I seriously took the me-date to the next level and made some changes to my self-care routine in a way that made me feel more relaxed, lighter, and fresh.
So how do I ground my-self during stressful times?
- Putting back to where it belongs
I got up this morning and saw myself feeling really messy. I see socks lying on the carpet, my purse on the table, washed clothes in the laundry bag, cleaning supplies in the kitchen, unwashed utensils and the list goes on. Literally the entire apartment looked like a storeroom, and so did my life.
I am a firm believer in how our living environment is a direct manifestation of our inner state and I have been feeling all sorts of crazy. So I made it a point this weekend to block out some me-time and to do more of what I know will help me relax, re-focus, and regain that inner peace and calm.
So this is a little reminder when life gets crazy or whenever I am feeling overwhelmed, disorganized, and disconnected the very first thing I do is tidy and clean. Trust me, it works!
This time of mine where I perform the cleaning task helps me clear my mind and achieve some kind of mental clarity. I heard it somewhere that the environment with which we surround ourselves both our physical environment and our personal comportment is a direct expression of dignity and self-respect.
So this is a great reminder that being busy shouldn’t come at the expense of being cluttered and disorganized.
- Write down your thoughts & feelings
As soon as I fix up my place, I feel lighter and more centered. As soon as I clean my surroundings, it’s time to decipher my code of a brain and put pen to paper. When I find myself stuck or lost or paralyzed, it’s usually because I start questioning and doubting myself, which leads to doubting my intentions, my progress, and my existence. Yes, it may look dramatic and this is why I need to sedate myself and put my feelings on a piece of paper also known as Journaling.
This is how it goes I write out my feelings including anything and everything that’s bothering me or wounding me. I try to be as brutally honest with myself as I can. I then ask myself if what I am worrying about is something I can change. If I can, I ask how I can improve and do better? If I can’t then I acknowledge the worry, thank it for helping me grow and ask myself to let it go.
There’s just something about writing out my thoughts and putting it on paper. It helps me sort through my thoughts, and I see things so much more clearly for what they are. This helps to reflect on myself and help me see where I am falling short and how I can keep doing better moving forward.
Next is one of those things which really good for me and for all of us but I’m still not consistent with it on a daily basis which is something I hope to change. I have been doing meditation for a few weeks now and I like how it sets the tone for the rest of my day. So in the days when I miss out on the meditation or am not in the mood, I definitely don’t feel as calm, composed, or self-aware. Meditation to me is watching my thoughts, calming my mind, and carving out time for me to reconnect with myself.
The form of meditation I do is Guided Vipassana meditation where I sit in a comfortable position, close my eyes, and try to focus on my thoughts in the present moment. My mind should be empty and tranquil, and I shouldn’t be thinking about anything. Meditations makes me feel super peaceful and grounded.
If sitting for long hours isn’t your jam, there are so many types of meditation and ways of meditating to look into. You can find many forms and ways on the internet. Or best just put some relaxing music on the one which goes with your flow and sit in a lotus position, close your eyes and do some mindful meditation.
Now that it’s sorted out my feelings it’s time to bring back some pampering back into my life. When the going gets rough, and I get overwhelmed and busy the first thing to go out the window is usually self-care, which results in me looking like a barefaced little dude with my hair in a bun 24/7.
It’s the simple pleasure in life like washing my hair, doing my hair, tossing a bath bomb in the tub and taking a peaceful bath, applying a clay mask followed by a face sheet, doing my nails once in a while instead of cutting it short, wearing a good lip color sometimes. Taking care of your appearance is like taking care of your space. It is a reflection of your inner state and a form of self-respect.
Because it is so easy to get caught up in the busy trap, we overwork ourselves or make some lazy excuses but forget it is so important to be kind and compassionate to ourselves and to do more of what makes us happy.
I also love reading self-help books and autobiographies of famous people and entrepreneurs. Reading about their stories, journeys filled with success and failure, their laughter, tears, happiness and joys and depression, and their darkest times. It reminds me that we all are human and with enough hard work, faith, and perseverance anything can happen.
Whenever I am in need of some hugs and laughter, crazy, stupid love, friends, and some childhood favorite movies and series always put me in a good mood.
The entire premise of this is to know what makes you happy and do more of it.
And finally, the last one but a powerful one is smile more! I tend to go through my days with a straight or a resting face and let’s say my natural looking face isn’t the happiest-looking face.
I read somewhere that studies have shown that faking a smile can actually improve your mood, especially when you’re stressed or having an awful day. I know it’s silly to force a fake smile on our faces but because whatever is stressing you and me out, and that’s overwhelming, it’s actually not a big of a deal once we step it out of our heads.
So try to smile more and leave your worries behind as whatever happens in our lives is to either test us or help us become a better version of ourselves.
Anything that lights up your mood and makes you feel alive, do that. Just do it, do it.
This is how I keep myself grounded and I would like to know from you how you guys ground yourself in stressful situations?. Cause it’s easier said than done when we go through a rough schedule or tough times but I am sure it helps us in some ways for sure.